The Blog of iveseenitall

First - if you are seriously thinking about harming yourself you need to reach out and seek help. As for the advice you are seeking - your boyfriend was disrespectful to you. Not in posting the picture - plenty of people have an exhibitionist streak - but hiding it from you. You need to quit focusing on him - make a list of things you like to do. Start filling your time and day with those things. If you start to think about him or what has happened...redirect your thoughts. Don't go down that aisle anymore until you get some perspective. One way to get perspective is to volunteer. Contact your local United Way and they will send you a 15 page book on all of their current opportunities in your area. I can tell you that you deserve to be happy - the two of you seem very mismatched. You've spent enough time and energy on a relationship that will not work. Don't give it anymore time than necessary.

i don't think we're necessarily mismatched...i mean, i would do anything to help him and his the same...we just have our ups and downs like any other couple....we love each other so very much....and it's not like the sick kind of love that some people have...(hard to explain.) I will definitely see about the volunteering thing, because not only will it allow me to help others, it will be an outlet for me in a way. I'm glad you think I deserve to be happy. For the most part I am extremely happy, it was just this one time that crushed me. In the end, I will win. Not the unhappiness, or depression. Thanks so much for your advice.

Be sure you are not mismatched - and I mean sexually. If you are bothered by **** and exhibitionism - or fetishes...and this is the direction he leans...that's a mismatch. You can be a good match in every other way - and mismatched sexually - and it will be a hard road. Take it from someone who lives with that reality. Don't fool yourself into thinking "it's just sex" - it's the way you connect. Intimacy is huge. I find that turning my energy outward - like through volunteering really helps me clear my head and look at my own life and problems a little clearer. Best of luck....

intimately we are great....we are open and have a great connection....i think maybe his curiosity just got the better of him....i don't think we are mismatched in anyway...but oh well..i guess s*it happens...oh we talked it over any all is well for us.